Hey y'all, this is Dr. Naieema. Welcome back to the House of Ta. And you you already know this. This is not where we do polished perfection. This is where we tell the truth, where we unlearn to hustle and where we rebuild, what the body already knows. Our bodies are intelligent as fuck. But today, we're talking about something too many of us are carrying in silence. And we're talking about breaking curses, but specifically, we're talking about breaking the curse of hustle overwork, over responsibility. And I'm here to tell you that breaking curses ain't quiet work. Ain't quiet at all. Your life is loud. Whether you know it or not, people watching you. Your nervous system is unsure what's going on, right? They taught you to hustle. But you chose healing. Now, here you are in between two worlds. And you know, I like the name this shit. Most of us were born into families that survived through grind, especially the women and not families. I'm not saying that the men don't either, but we've seen mama go to work, Mama come back, clean the house, Mama do it all. Grandmma't all of them. And. We watched the work hard, to stay busy, to stay useful, to stay needed. They didn't rest. They sure hell, they sure as hell wasn't soft? They didn't have time to feel. And that was their strength. That was how they survived. No judgment. But then came people like you and I. The ones who wanted more.. The ones who asked, "What if I do not have to live this way?" The one who said, what if I do not have to be tired to be worthy? And let me tell you this. When you start moving differently, it shakes the tables. It shakes the systems and your body. It shakes the dynamics in your family. It shakes your sense of self. Because Hustle was never just what you did. It was how you belonged. Ooh, right, that sense of belonging that it gives you. And there's also people going, you are doing such a good job. And here's what nobody tells you about the process. All the shedding that you've already done and I've done. The way they taught you to move is not how you were designed to move. Your human design type shows you this so fucking clearly. So before I go into the three types, just a very high level, I just want to say this specifically to my generator types, my generators, and my manifesting generators. People are like, you're the worker be, you're the worker be, yeah, not in a capitalistic kind of way. Not like you got to work 60 hours a week because you got the energy. Like, no, that's that's that's not what that means. We get that shit out your head. So if you're a juvator, you would designed to move in response to what lights you up. to trust your body's yeses. And I'm pretty sure working 60 hours a week at somebody else's fucking job is not not what's slighting you up. I'm not saying if that's what you need to do because you got to survive. That's different. You got to survive until things get better. But survival conditioning taught you that worth comes from doing the most. That rest is weakness. that to say no is in some way ungrateful. If you are manifesting generator, you were designed to move with flow, to pivot, like, oh, I'm done with this, even if you didn't finish it to shift, to honor your body's changing rhythms But survival conditioning told you to lock into one path. to prove that you could stick it out, no matter how dead it felt. I watched that in so many people in my life. My mom as a man, ex husband's a managing. My current partner's a manin. And y'all will try your best It's just do things that just I'm not in alignment with you. If you are a fellow projector like me, you were never meant to hustle. You were hit a guide to see things other people can't see, to rest between surges of direction. But survival conditioning taught you that if you are not doing you're lazy, if you're not fixing, you are failing, I used to feel so bad when I, you know, learned my design. I started to experiment with being a projector and not helping all the time, unless I was invited. That was hard for me. I was like, well, what if they needing help? Like I was the only fucking person. Like I was somebody's savior. And this is why so many women are tired. They're tired, not because they're weak, but because they're moving in a way that is out of alignment with who they actually are. And when you start breaking those patterns, the grief hits. Because we can, it's just like the grief of who you thought you were. Not just the grief of what you lost. The grief of what you never had. And I'm talking from experience here. I remember having grief realizing that I never learned to rest. What about you? It says to me, rest was just, I'm going to sleep." The grief of realizing you do not even know what you like. That's why, I'm like, man, man and generators do what lights you up. They're like, ha,esp to huh? How do I know what lights me up? You know what I'm going to fucking know. The grief of realizing you do not know who you are when you are not hustling. And after that, the boredom comes that you think is depression. And nobody talks about that part. Because when you stop overworking, overiving, overproven, like you've seen people in your family do, it feels empty at first. You are used to being emotion. You're nervous system is used. It's used to the rush. You are used to being needed. You are used to being the one who gets it done. And when that falls apart, you sit there. And sometimes it feels like, well, who the fuck am I? Who am I now? Who am I when I'm not fixing everyone? Who am I when I'm not managing the house, the work, the family, the community? Who am I when I do not have 100 things on my to do list? Let me tell you something. That boredom is not failure. It's the space where self comes back online. I remember when I started honoring my design. When I stopped performing the strong one. I had always been the one who kept everything moving, and my family, in my career, in my business. I had built an identity around that. And when I stopped, the invitations slowed. The phone got quieter. The inbox was less full. My money was started acting funny. The people who love the version of me that overgave, they didn't know what to do with the version of me who finally set boundaries. And it hurt. I felt invisible. I I questioned if I had I made the right decision. I sat in discomfort of no longer knowing who I was outside a hustle. But that space. that is where I started finding who I really am. That is where my nervous system finally stopped craving chaos. That is where my body started trusting safety. And was a perfect? No, I just told you it wasn't perfect. So I started to share online about how I worked less and earned I started earning more. Like, my nervous system was regulated. Money started flowing again. I was having less clients, but more money, more time to serve them, more time to myself. And then here come the fuckboys. Men who are not really men, but they, you know, they have penises. Oh, you lazy. That's what's wrong with the women today. You're lazy. You're ugly. All the things they say to us, when we don't want to give free labor anymore. We don't want to overdo. Mind you, I'm just sharing with my audience what I'm doing, how I'm building my business and all the things. And these are men. They mad at me. So I want you to understand that none of this means that everything is going to be perfect. It just means you're going to be at peace, no matter what anyone says or do, because I know I still am. Okay. So if you're here right now, and this is hitting, I'm going to give you... three or four things. I don't even know if I want to. three or four things. that can help you know where to start. First, because you're in between two worlds right now. You stop the hustling. You stop the grinding. You stop the overres responsibility, over giving it you've seen in your family. I want you to name this as nervous system work, not mindset work. You have to rebuild safety in your body for rest, for softness, for your rhythm to come. Because the first time you sit still, your body will panic. And I know you know that. Not because it's wrong, but because stillness was never safe before. So start saying, I'm, this is nervous system work. No, I'm not fixing me. Nope. No I'm wrong with you, sis. It's just nervous system work. Can you name that? Okay, second. Get radically honest about your type. Your human is on type. Where are you still performing hustle? Where are you moving in ways that we're taught to you but are not true for you? Where are you forcing when your body is already asking for space? Where are you letting your mind override your authority, your body's intuition? Third, and this is the, I am going to say, I'll share three and four. This is where it really got big for me and really got real for me. Let yourself grieve. Grieve the rolls. I remember once I got my, you know, my PhD, I became a professor. I'm like, yes, this is it? I wasn't impressed. But I had to grieve it because I had worked so hard to get there. Grieve the roles. Grieve the old connections. The old partner, the old way that you parented, the old community used to be a part of. Grieve the version of you that had to survive that way. Thank her, but Tara says, I don't need you no more. Okay. And be ready for the boredom. Because the boredom is a portal. It's where you start to ask, what the fuck do I like? What lights me up? What invitations am I calling in? What rhythms feel good to me? And that is the work. The fourth thing you can do is surround yourself with spaces that honor who you're becoming, not who you had to be. Because you did not break this curse to say small. You broke it to live. That's why I don't go around my family a lot. I get judged. for the way I speak, for the choices I make, for my determination. I get judged for my success. That doesn't involve grinding. So some of those surroundings might be not around your family. Real talk. Take a breath. I noticed this was deep. Take a breath. But that's where you start. And if this episode spoke to you, I want you to stay close. This is the exact work we do inside of the House Atah. We work it forward, we move through the grief, We reclaim the body. We literally, we wire the nervous system. And I'm not going to take that. I want you to hear everything. And we build a life that fits the design of who you actually are. And it's deep work. Because you did not survive all you survived just to stay in patterns that are killing your joy. So the wait list for the House of Thai a program that where we hold you and we allow you to walk through these things. with support. While honoring your nervous system, the wait list is open. And if you're like, " yeah, I want to do that, but I want to start something now. There are have humanign courses just to give you an idea of your human design, your type, your strategy, your authority, and so many, too much more. Or I have one-on- ones where we sit down, we really navigate an issue together using your human design. Link for them all in the show notes. I'm Dr. Naieema, and I'm here to remind you. Your homecoming is not out there. It is your rhythm. It is your clarity. It is your return.